Sunday, July 28, 2013

Perspective

Sometimes people often ask questions out do curiosity about our family not realizing it sometimes feels like an interrogation.... 

That very thing happens often to me and even happened today at church....one of the moms asked questions about our family....why did you grow your family through foster care? Why adopt? Why so many? How do you keep everyone 'safe'? As the questions tumbled out of her mouth I knew there must be a reason for all of this....and there was....a family member in her life had a baby and they were faced with the decision whether to step in for a baby or not....she was trying to figure out why we would do what we do when they had decided to turn away from someone in their own family. But these are the times that make me think about the Lords leading in our family and the word that comes to mind is PERSPECTIVE.

It is all about perspective and God is usually involved in stretching us and changing our perspective as he leads us through trials, introduces us to new people who challenge us with living more for him and more dying to self. Dying to self has been a theme in studies lately that keeps resurfacing and it has challenged me in how I think about the calling on our lives to do what we do each day and look at it through His eyes.

Why foster care and why so many was answered to this is where The Lord has lead us! As for the number, I remember as a new bride telling my mother in law that anyone with 4  kids must be crazy....insert foot to mouth as I often spoke then before thinking as my husband is the oldest of 4 kids....yes I said 4!  When we started this journey we never envisioned 4,5 or even 6 kids. now we find ourselves with 9 and tell The Lord that He is now in charge of the how many will eventually join our family. When we let Him take over our lives amazing things happen and our perspective changes! Six kids seems pretty easy and the addition of more doesn't seem so crazy any more!

As foster parents we are often told that the kids we have are so lucky to be with us but perspective has changed this....we feel so lucky to have hem in our lives because they have changed us more than we have changed them. We have given them safety, security,love...a home. In return, we have received security and safety in knowing The Lord will provide for us no matter what, grateful for the things provided, the friendships and support that have been forged, and the love of children who remember what it was like before in their lives before coming here.  Everyone's perspective has changed and while we walked this road together the greatest and most amazing thing happened....God knit our hearts together to form a beautiful family.

What perspective is The Lord changing in your life? What area are you being challenged in ....let God do his marvelous work in you and see what things change in your life!

Saturday, July 20, 2013

Summer Nights

Tonight was a perfect summer night! We were invited by the Winslow family to join them at the Bubble in Wolfeboro to help celebrate Maddie's birthday. We were originally expecting company but they postponed a day so we were excited to go on a summer adventure.

We met at the Bubble and ate delicious ice cream....mmmm. We then headed to a grassy park along the lake where we visited, the children played tag and climbed trees and some even put their toes in the water. After such a hot week, it was a beautiful cool evening with friends at the lake in the quaint town of Wolfeboro.











Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Broken Glass, Spoiled Work and Being a 'Big Person'

Sometimes we just can't get it right...no matter how hard we try...things just happen.  We have had a busy week of camp for most of the kids.  The 5 and 7 year old go for 1/2 a day and the older ones go for the whole day.  This means that the little ones and mom are making 3 trips a day to camp to drop off and pick up!  Add to that the normal workings of a foster family with visits with family and workers, laundry, meals, showing and selling our beloved pop-up (a story for another day), jumping in the pool to beat the 90 something degree weather outside...well, just say our days have been busy.  Not sure what ever happened to the slow days of summer but the kids are enjoying themselves at camp and it is just for this one week....but...

tonight as we finished dinner late because we lingered in the pool, Darrell was preparing to head out to a meeting with a friend and the family who bought the pop-up showed up to pick it up all about the same time.  I was in with the kiddos cleaning up, getting dessert out, working on pj's and such...I had also  put a huge pan of ground beef that I had purchased to do some make ahead meals to cook while we ate dinner.  So, around all the usual hub-bub of what goes on around here, I was preparing several meals to freeze.  I put the finishing touches and asked my 7 year old to help me carry them down the steps to the freezer in the basement.  She  put both hands on it, made it to the bottom of the steps and dropped it.  Our pyrex pan and our delicious cheeseburger pie went into a heap on the floor in about a zillion piece...well from my perspective it seemed like a zillion pieces.  I gasped in disbelief and poor Kiara went flying up the stairs in tears.  I told her it was okay and gave her a few minutes to get herself together while I cleaned lots of broken glass and cheeseburger pie...up and down the stairs to get the broom, cleaners and bags to haul it all out.  It is a busy place so I really needed to get the glass all up with so many little feet around!  I think it was my 3rd trip up to go up the stairs and you would have thought I would have known that I put lots of cleaner on the floor but I took one step and went flying through the air and landed not so gracefully on my bottom!  I just couldn't believe it and made sure my knees were still in place (seriously!) and got up and that is when it hit me-I need to let this go.....

Let it go....I really wasn't upset...but just let it go!  We recently went through a teaching at a friends church reminding us to Praise the Lord no matter what happens...good or bad--whatever comes your way!  This was just another reminder as I was sitting on the floor in disbelief to Praise the Lord!  I love it when the Lord teaches us these things but sometimes I wished he really didn't need to pull our feet out from under us to get our attention--ouch!  It is humbling but will usually get us back on track!

I picked myself up and raced up the stairs to change my clothes now covered in cheeseburger pie and cleaner to throw it into the laundry and then raced into Kiara's room to tell her my revelation.  I told her yes, I spent a lot of time working on that and there was a whole meal we had to throw out but we both need to Praise the Lord no matter what.  At first, she just gave me a look---mom is going berserk again--but then I reminded her of our day....

...a day when she and I had 3 hours of quality time together....just her and I!  Her love language is food--a lot of food and eating out in public.  We went to Subway where she ate a 6 inch sub and a tall drink...a lot for her little self!  After Subway, we went to the new ice cream shop in town and ate a mini scoop (which is far from being mini...it's huge) in a waffle cone with sprinkles...and yes, I ate one too!  We also visited a thrift shop where we found no great bargains but then came home to break out the beads...something she and I had never done together before.  In the bead box, we found some  things that her older sisters made when they were her age and she wore a beautiful butterfly beaded ring that her sister, Michaela made several years ago (we sent pictures of it to her older sisters to see who the designer actually was).  We swam in the pool after we picked everyone up from camp and their visit and dad even joined us when he got home.  It was a really great day!  When we spoke of all the great things that happened in our day...it seemed rather small that I had gone sailing through the air with the greatest of ease and she broke the dishes.  We both laughed together as we remembered our day and chose to thank the Lord for it!  What a blessing it was and is as I sit here and remember that the Lord is good and wants his best and uses the simple every day things to remind us of His goodness!

On another note, at Wilderness Camp this year, Jason is following in his big sister's tradition and became an official 'Big Person' at camp.  When you age out of the camp program, you are asked to come back as a camp counselor...all who just volunteer to do this job on the hottest week of the year each year!  He is having fun despite coming home exhausted each day...great job Jason!

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.-Jeremiah 29:11


Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. 1Thessalonians 5:

 

Jason, our new Big Person

Michaela's ring

The ring Kiara made today

Some beaded treasures we found in the beaded box that the older girls and I made many years ago

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Shiver Me Timbers...Timber Rattlesnakes that is!

timber rattlesnake by Brendan CliffordYikes!!  One of these was found at our neighbors house this past weekend...seriously at our neighbor's house like right next door...in the rocks they have to hold up an embankment on the hill their house is built into...what is it you might ask??

A Timber Rattlesnake!  A docile snake as far as snakes go (at least that is what the website says) but I seriously don't want to get that close!  Fish and Game came out to capture this one and remove it to another location...they said it is the 4th they have removed from this area (between the neighbors and 1/4 mile down the street) this spring so far.

Our neighbors have lived here for over 20 years and its the first one they have seen!  I am hoping it is the last one for awhile.

Facts about the Timber Rattler...it is extremely endangered here in NH due to mining, development and people collecting them (?WHY?) and getting hit by cars.  They hibernate from November through May and use the same dens for generations.  They give birth to live young in the fall.  They love sunny outcroppings of rocks...just about our whole back yard because, after all, we live in the Granite State.

Even though that is really cool, I am concerned for our kids who stomp through the woods here everyday!  We went over some safety with them tonight at the dinner table and talked about being careful.

Shortly after moving to this area, we learned the hill we lived on was Rattle Snake Hill.  We were told not to worry, there aren't any around any more.  Well, guess that was a wrong statement!  Keeping our eyes wide open here in our little neck of the woods tonight and always!

Saturday, July 6, 2013

The Pool, Snakes and Alligators

Last August a tree took out our pool. We had long discussions as to whether we would replace it but after a long process and many days of building the new deck around all the spring rains we have had -----the project was finished today! We are enjoying the bigger deck and new pool!

Earlier today while I was running errands with some of the littles, the boys were putting the finishing touches on the deck. When I arrived home and started unloading the few things I bought Harmony ran around back to check out what the boys were doing...she was barefoot as usual. She ran under the deck and ignored the boys telling her to stop! A large snake was under the deck and was running over the wagon ad other toys. She screamed and ran to tell me about the big snake! I dislike snakes very much---eww. Dad and the boys went on a search for it and cleaned out underneath....moving all the wood! I am excited about that part! I kept asking if the basement door had been closed. Harmony and Brandon assured me the door was closed and the snake disappeared. We still don't know where the snake went but alligators have now been sighted in the area!

Kiara, the Alligator wrestler

Harmony the star

Michael

Dad 'helping' Jason in



Brandon trying to relive his baby days


Jess the Seal tamer

Thursday, July 4, 2013

Happy Birthday Michaela

She was the first...the first diaper I ever changed, the first baby I fed, the first to be snuggled in my arms... The first little one I fell in love with! Happy Birthday my dear sweet Michaela!-23 years old!!

Michaela Beth....Michaela means "Gift from God" and Beth means "God's Promise".  She is our gift and promise from God...we love the meaning in her name that the Lord gave to her!  Our sweet, sweet daughter who has been a blessing in our lives!


Michaela in 1999, the summer we moved to NH

Michaela getting Baptized by her dad in the Galucki's pool in Bedford, NH

Michaela today...her 23rd Birthday!

Her cake with 23 candles...and she didn't burn the house down!:)


Tuesday, July 2, 2013

The Weekend

We actually had a busy weekend at our place!

Liberty came home! She has been away for 2 months in training with our daughter, Jessica. She is looking great!

We went to Anya's graduation party. I just can't believe she is finished with high school! Besides lots of tasty treats...she treated us to a afternoon with Wildlife Encounter. We saw snakes, birds and even a wallaby! It was awesome and the kids were much braver than Mom!

We also did some work on the pool deck.


Liberty is looking fit after being worked so hard by Jess!

Jason testing out the new improved Liberty.

The boys watching the snake intently.

Jason was the video man for the the show.


This was one BIG snake!

Have to admit the Hedgehog was so cute...Jess is checking him out.

Jason is a trusty helper.